#291: Stop Standing in Your Past 

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, we are chatting about whether you are standing in your past stories.  I have referred to the concept of standing IN vs standing ON our stories. When we are standing in our stories, we are stuck in the past, replaying scenarios that we can no longer control, fix or manage. Here’s a brief explanation of standing in vs standing on your story. 

In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Standing IN your stories and the explanation I use is replaying the past over and over;  searching for answers to fix something that is done;  living in a space of blame, resistance, comparison or frustration;  feeling like life is not fair; using your energy to wish, hope and pray for it to all change on it’s own; holding yourself back as a victim of your circumstances; and literally keeping yourself stuck in your stories.

2) Learning how to stand on your stories means the following: living at cause in your life; living in full radical ownership for the choices you make, the actions, decisions and responses you give to your circumstances; being committed to your growth and expansion and surrounding yourself with people who fill you up and support your visions; knowing that life has happened and you would not be the person you are today without the stories and circumstances you’ve lived. It also means being able to look at your lessons and know that your pain serves a much higher purpose and the solutions you learned can actually impact, serve and support others as well as knowing with certainty that life is happening for you and you are ready to step into the driver's seat to create your life.

3) When we are standing in our past we are keeping ourselves stuck in something we literally have no control over.  Commit to moving forward, opening a door, and closing the one behind you or own the fact that you are making the choice to stay in this space of no change. Learning to stand on your story is when it all changes. 

Storytelling Bootcamp (we start in August)
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Rising Leaders Facebook Group
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Every Body Holds a Story Facebook Group
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others