#156: Sometimes You Have to Sit in the Flames

In this mindset episode, we are talking about the times in our life when we are sitting in the fire or the flames.  This is the starting point of transformation. It is as uncomfortable as hell and we can learn to ask the questions to help us move forward or stay in the fire.  What if the fire is exactly what we need to create the change that we need to make?   I love this quote by Stephanie Sparkles, “I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still consumed by the fire.”

In this episode, we discuss:

1. Whatever you are resisting is what will persist. If you are sitting in the first and in a space of comparison or victim mindset, neither one of them will help you change your circumstances. Stop resisting the fire, learn to look at it differently.
2. Ask a different question. The why questions keep us stuck and only thinking like a victim.
3. Focus on gratitude. It is the smaller, mundane things that we see every day that can change or shift our thinking. This is how we train our brains to see things differently.
4. The real transformation comes from sitting in the fire. What if the fire is there to burn off the parts of you and your story that you don’t need now or in the future? That is all part of the transformation you need to experience in order to move forward.
5. Find something neutral with your words or mindset to not give it more energy than it is. Sometimes it just is, and that is ok. Adversity is not asking you to like it, it is not meant to be loveable.  What if it is there FOR you to move forward to help you in your transformation? This adversity is trying to move us forward.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others