#147: Boundaries – Where Do I Even Start?

In this mindset episode, we are talking about the word boundaries.  Years ago, I didn’t even know what a boundary was or how to even create one. Every time a counselor mentioned the word it felt impossible and selfish for me to have boundaries in my life.  Little did I know that understanding, learning, and creating boundaries would literally save my life.   I knew I had to share this with my clients and surprisingly very few people understood boundaries.  I broke it all down in this podcast episode for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

1. Where are you missing boundaries in your life? Typically wherever you are experiencing anxiety is a clue that boundaries are missing.  Pick one place to start the work to create and implement boundaries in our lives.
2. Do the work to understand what your personal values are. Keep working the list down to 5 – 7 words and these words become the basis for all of the yes and no decisions in your life.
3. Once you have determined your values, take a look in your life to see where you can raise your standards, not your expectations. Raising your standards allows you to plan out your life accordingly to set yourself up for success. If you want a deeper understanding of standards and expectations, listen the Episode #122 Raise Your Standards Not Your Expectations, https://apple.co/32c6zaG
4. Next, use your values to create your boundaries. Boundaries are not a piece of armor blocking the world out.  Instead, boundaries are a moving state like a balloon where we make it fit in a way that serves us best.  Boundaries allow us to protect ourselves to show up as the best version of ourselves in the world.
5. Determine where your boundaries won’t work or where they tend to break down. We have to recognize where things are not working so we can put a plan into place to make it work.
6. Our boundaries are all about us, they aren’t about anyone else. We must set our boundaries to honour the goals and priorities that we have set for our own lives. This is the only way we can conserve and honour our energy to be the best version of ourselves that we can be.

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About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others