#127: Kick Shame to the Curb

In this mindset episode, we are diving into all of the extra emotions we are carrying around during this time of isolation.  I am hearing dozens of messages from people who are feeling all kinds of self-shame, doubt, fear in general, and fear of the judgment of others.  All kinds of statements of, “I am not doing enough”, “I should be doing x, y, z., etc.”  Let’s dive into all the topics that are holding us down while we are in the isolation of COVID-19. 

In this episode, we discuss:

1. Brené Brown said: Shame is a painful emotion that responds to a sense of failure to attain some ideal state. Shame encompasses the entire self. Shame is the feeling that “I am bad”. Self-shame means that we are continually feeling that we are bad…and all that stems from the way we judge ourselves, hence “self”.
2. We are the only ones who can change these words that we are telling ourselves. It takes work and commitment and freeing ourselves from these “labels” will help to free us from feeling stuck and improve our self of worth.
3. Brene Brown said: Guilt involves a negative evaluation of a specific behavior. Guilt is, "I did something bad." Feeling shame and guilt during a time of isolation where we have so little control, actually no control over what is happening in our external world is setting us up for failure.
4. We must take back control over the things that we can control, and that is ourselves. Our choices, our actions, our decisions, and how we choose to respond to what we have right to deal with right now. Carrying all of these other emotions is not helping us deal with this time of isolation. Give these emotions a voice, and watch the shame disappear. Giving shame a voice is the only way to move through it and release it.
5. We are the biggest project we will ever take on. It is our responsibility to make ourselves a priority, especially during this time.  What if instead of being hard on ourselves, we dedicate this time to working ON ourselves like we are a top priority in our life because we are.  We can come out of this time with a whole new set of life skills, habits and rituals in place.
6. When we focus on taking radical responsibility for ourselves, we own what is ours to own, and ultimately, we become more powerful. This is how we step into our leadership potential and this is what the world is calling on us to do now.

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About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others