#92: “Where is Your Emotional Home?”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am sharing my experience from attending The Power of Success Event in Toronto where I had the pleasure of hearing Tony Robbins, Rachel Hollis, John Gray, Gary John Bishop, Molly Bloom and many other speakers.

One message in particular from Tony Robbins hit home for me. He spoke about acknowledging where our “emotional home” is.  This is the place that we continuously go back to, most times without even thinking about it.  It is so subconscious that we our thoughts, mindset, energy and beliefs drift back to our old patterns and our old ways.  If we are going to make a change in our lives, we must recognize our patterns, our normal ways of sabotaging ourselves and come face to face with our emotional home. Attending events in personal development, hiring the coaches and committing to bettering ourselves is great.  The intentions won’t be long lived or successful if we don’t address some of these issues. The quality of our life is determined by where we live emotionally.

In this episode we talk about:

1. Acknowledging what our emotional home is.  Is it stress, worry, anxiety, fear, paralysis, inaction, judgement etc.?  We cannot change anything if we do not acknowledge and accept what our old patterns are. This is where all change starts.

2. We can have the best intentions for creating change in our lives, if we don’t understand our methods for self-sabotage and come up with some alternatives, the law of familiarity will kick in and bring us back to where we started.

3. We all have potential to create any change we want to create in our lives.  If we don’t take action steps, potential means nothing.  We must get into action to give us results, positive or negative. Either way it is simply feedback for us to learn which direction we want to go next, and this in turn builds our certainty and belief in ourselves. This helps us to build the confidence and courage to use our potential again.

4. The first choice we all have to make is what do we focus on?!  What we focus on we feel.  That means if it is all negative, scarcity, comparison, doubt and fear, then that is all that we will see.  That only drops our energy, drains us of our potential and keeps us stuck in our original space and mindset.  Hence, no change happens.

5. If you don’t decide what you want to focus on the world will decide for you, and this will not create change either.

6. What are your action steps, your strategic plans for when self-sabotage kicks in?  Call it out, see what your normal patterns are and when it happens, and it will, change the pattern instantly in the moment.  Change can happen that quickly when we shift that every and change that pattern to one that takes us closer to where we want to go in our lives.

7. You can change your emotional home at any time by following these action steps, and that is when lasting change occurs in your life