#302: The Importance of Owning Your Story

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, we are talking about getting what it means to own your story and why it is so important to learn how to own your story. We all have stories, we pick them up, we carry them and we let those stories define us.  We also let these stories determine what we say yes and no to and the opportunities we allow ourselves to say yes to. You deserve to learn how to own your story because if you don't own it, it owns you. 

In this episode, we discuss:

1. We all have stories, in all areas of our lives such as money, relationships, business, health, luck etc.  These stories determine whether we feel or believe that we are worthy of opportunities or creating any change in our lives.  These stories can define us if we let them. 

2. If your story is stopping you from living your life, from letting go, from showing up, from being vulnerable, then it actually owns you. If your story is bringing you shame or guilt then you owe it to yourself and the others in your life to learn how to own it. You can stand on it or live in it.  If it owns you, it controls you. It can be that simple, and that is where freedom lives. 
3. Let’s take it back to ownership.  What are you taking ownership or responsibility for that actually isn’t yours? When you take responsibility for someone else’s choices you are preventing them from experiencing the consequences of their own choices. Plus this is energy you are not using to create change in your own life, and this will have a bigger ripple effect in their life.  
4. Unwrap or unpack your story. This is where it all starts, and this is how you unwrap it to look at it differently.  This is how you see the patterns, lessons, gifts, experiences, and it helps you to see the purpose for all of the pain and experiences you have lived through.  Someone is praying for the solutions that you are holding onto. 
5. As a coach in the online space, you owe it to your clients to tap into who you are and what you have learned from the lessons of your story.  You can only authentically connect with people on lessons you have learned firsthand.  Know your lane because that is what you have experienced.  This is where you are the expert and this is how your people will find you, they are literally looking for you. 

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others